When you talk about dating a shy guy, you talk about guys who are timid.
They are the type of guys that lacks the courage to approach a woman. They are either afraid of being rejected or embarrassed.
I am someone in this category. I feel very shy to approach or talk to someone I admire.
Most of the time, shy guys prefer talking over the phone to one on one discussions. That is why they feel more comfortable and relaxed while chatting with you or having a conversation over the phone.
As a lady, they are things you should consider while dating guys. These guys are always ashamed or have this low self-esteem that hinders them from opening up to you.
One fact about shy guys is that they express their feelings more in action than words.
A shy guy may prefer to offer you a birthday gift in secret than making it open to everyone.
Is not because they are not proud of you, but they are simply shy to express their feelings in public.
We all have different personalities. Some are introverts whereas some are extroverts.
That is why you shouldn’t judge a guy by his timid attitude. Study him to know the type of personality he has. If he’s an extrovert, you will know. What of an introvert? He will exhibit some signs of shyness like; slow to speak or talking in a low tone, always saying ‘YES’ even when he ought to say ‘NO’.
According to Zooks, once a shy guy starts getting comfortable with you, he can be a phenomenal boyfriend.
Shy guys in a relationship rarely express their feelings in words, but in action.
They will try their best to make you happy but will not say it. It is not because they can’t express their love in words, but they feel anxious about that. So, you ought to be sensitive as a woman, while dating a guy who is shy.
A guy once met a girl on social media, they started dating, but in the process, the girl discovered that he is not open to her. But because she wasn’t sensitive enough, she decided to end the relationship thinking that he’s not serious.
In other to avoid the mistake of losing a potential boyfriend, here are some facts about shy guys.
5 facts about dating a shy guy
Below are few things you should know about guys who find it difficult to woo a woman they like.
1. He won’t open up at the initial stage:
Shy guys don’t open up so easily. It will take a little time before you can see him expressing his feelings to you.
For instance, he may not say ‘I love you now, but will definitely do things that will prove his love for you.
So, at the initial stage of your relationship, don’t expect flirty talk or sweet text messages from him.
He will later come to that. But now, he will never flirt with you, unless you’re chatting on the phone. But if you are together, just forget about that. He won’t open up to you now but will do as time goes on.
All you need is to give him some time and space. Don’t scare him away.
Timid guys act like kids most times. Instead of quarreling or arguing with you, they will quietly withdraw from you.
2. They express their love mostly in action:
As I have stated earlier, most guys prefer actions to words when it comes to love.
They will prove to you that they truly love you, by making some sacrifices for you.
Timid guys don’t mind giving out all they have just to make you happy.
When you start receiving some gifts from him but fail to hear him say ‘I love you even for a day, it’s a sign he’s shy.
Have you ever wondered why he speaks boldly when you’re talking on the phone, but seems to be quiet when you go on a date? He’s simply shy.
Pay attention to those minor things he does just to make you feel special. It is a sign he secretly likes you but is afraid of telling you.
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3. Shy guys are not really good at flirting:
Unlike the extroverts, shy guys aren’t good at flirting with a woman at the beginning of the relationship.
As a woman, you should focus on making him open up to you. You can only achieve that by allowing him to be himself.
Is not yet time to start criticizing him. Make him feel comfortable with you. As time goes on, he will start showing up.
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4. They don’t talk too much:
Introverts don’t talk too much, likewise shy guys. Their words are often short, not because they don’t want to talk but they are shy.
They are either afraid of being criticized, or simply don’t know what to talk about.
Although, all these things happen at the initial stage of the relationship. But as time goes on, they will get rid of those feelings.
To shy guys, they don’t want to be seen as talkative. They rather remain reserved than talk silly things.
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5. They don’t make the first move:
Most shy guys don’t make the first move. They will rather relax and wait for the appointed time.
As a lady, while dating a shy guy, make the first move if you truly love him because he may be ashamed to do so.
There is nothing wrong with you as a lady to take the first step if you truly love a guy. So take the courage and do it since he is afraid to do so.
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Is it good to date a shy guy?
One of the good sides of shy guys is that they are great listeners, as long as you do not take them for granted and make fun of their shyness. All you should strive for is how to ease him out of his comfort zone so he can unveil his good sides to you.
How to date a shy guy.
Below are what to do when you are dating a timid guy.
1. Don’t make fun of his shyness:
He loves you but is afraid to take action. Don’t see him as someone who is not mature. It may be his nature (an introvert).
Therefore, don’t make a caricature of his nature of shyness, it may discourage him and he will just walk away.
2. Exercise patience and give him time:
Time is everything in life. Exercise patience with your lover boy. Don’t expect him to open up now. Just give him time and he will feel relaxed with you and open up.
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3. Study him properly:
Knowing your new lover will enable you to help him. He needs you to show him that you love him even as he is shy. Though he won’t have the courage to tell you everything.
Study him and know when he feels relaxed talking to you. Whether it is over the phone or one on one talk.
4. Find some interesting questions to keep him talking:
When you are dating a shy guy, don’t start by telling him everything about yourself nor should you ask him to tell you everything about himself. He may see it as intimidating and walk away.
How does a shy guy show interest?
They pay attention to every little detail about you, and always find a way to assist you whenever you are in need. They may not approach you directly to help you but may go through your friends or their friend to assist you. Another sign a shy guy likes you is that he keeps staring at you from away and quickly look away when he gets caught. This happens more if you have not known each other. But when you have met them in person, observe how often he makes eye contact with you. He doesn’t look into your eyes for long. It is a sign he likes you but he’s shy.