Have you ever being in a relationship where all you are thinking is how to end the relationship? At first, you thought you have finally found your soulmate. As time went on, you began to notice some strange characters (toxic) in your partner. The relationship suddenly became unhealthy. Now you are thinking of breaking up with your partner. I know how you feel right now. This post will give you some insight on how to end a relationship without hurting each other’s feelings.
How do you end a Relationship without hurting?
One major thing about breakup is that it pains. But will you continue living with a partner who drains you. Someone who makes you unhappy instead of being the source of your happiness. Is that the type of life you want? If ‘NO’, then don’t you think it is the right time to move out of the relationship?
Below are the best ways to get out of a Toxic Relationship.
1. Be determined:
Determination is the first step to ending any relationship. Prepare to face the problem at hand. You have been thinking of breaking up with your partner for a while now, what do you do? Get prepared to make your intention known to him/her. What are you really preparing for?
1. Prepare for the day (date) you wish to tell him/her.
2. The venue and
3. The right word to use (how to start)
How do you breakup nicely?
2. Choose a Venue:
Another thing to do while considering ending your relationship is to choose a proper place where you can tell your partner that you don’t want the relationship anymore.
It is not advisable to stay in a lonely or secret place. For instance, your Room, his/her Room, your friend’s place etc.
Choose an open place like Restaurant, Bar, etc. The reason why I suggest these two places is that, it will be very easy for people to see the both of you. Some girls are been raped on the process of trying to tell their boyfriend or partner that they are no longer interested in the relationship. Some of them where even killed on the process.
So it is advisable to stay in an open place and end your relationship.
Termination of a Relationship
3. Say it out:
Don’t be afraid to say your mind. Tell your partner your intention. Make him/her realize that you are no longer enjoying the relationship. For that reason, you would like to end the relationship. The truth is that, you have the power to end your relationship anytime you wish to.
While making your plan known to him/her, do it in a polite manner. Respect yourself first and your partner. Don’t see it as an opportunity to insult him/her. It is not the proper way of ending a relationship. The best way to end your relationship without hurting your partner’s feelings is to be polite. Tell your partner why you think the relationship should be over. It will help him/her realize his/her mistakes and work on them.
4. Move on with your Life:
Having told your partner that you are no longer interested in the relationship, what do you do next?
The next thing to do is to move on with your life. Stick to your decision and don’t look back. Don’t try to be a nice person by checking on them (calling your partner after breaking up). The relationship is over. Therefore, move on with your life. It is time to focus on your carrier. Focus on building yourself in other to become a better person.
What You shouldn’t do after breakup
Below are some of the mistakes most people make after breakup. You have to stop it. Here are the things you shouldn’t do after terminating your relationship.
1. Don’t rush into a new Relationship:
Most people make this very mistake after ending their relationship. Give yourself some time before you finally decide to start a new relationship.
Take this period (now you’re single) to focus on how to develop yourself.
Why did you end your past relationship? Is it your fault or your partner’s own. Why not use this period to improve yourself to avoid facing the same problem in your new relationship?.
Don’t be in a haste to enter into a new relationship now.
2. Don’t blackmail your partner:
Most people are victim of this. Immediately their relationship is over, they start saying all sought of bad things about their partner. It is very bad. You have to stop it. That you broke up with your partner does not mean he/she is now your enemy. So, avoid doing anything that will tarnish his/her reputation.
When is it time to end a Relationship?
Ending a Relationship is not actually the problem, but the right time to do that. If you notice the followings in your relationship, then know that it is time to quit the relationship.
1. When you no longer enjoy it:
If you notice that your relationship is no longer what it used to be before, then it is time to end it. You cannot continue staying in a relationship that does not add value to your life. Your partner ought to be your helper and not a destroyer to you.
2. When its full of abuses:
Another signs its time to end a relationship is when its full of abuses. If you constantly experience any form of abuse (s) from your partner, then you have to terminate the relationship, its toxic in nature.
3. You’re simply tired of the Relationship:
If you constantly feel drained after being with your partner, then its time to end the relationship. Your relationship shouldn’t be a wrestling field.
According to Very Well Mind, ending a relationship is one of the most difficult thing to do. But the above mentioned tips are the best approach to ending your relationship nicely without hurting your partner’s feelings. When you have decided to move on, do that without looking back. Focus on building yourself and your carrier. After breaking up with your partner, don’t be in a haste to start a new relationship. Give yourself some time to heal from the wound or pains of breakup.