When you fall deeply in love, it becomes almost impossible to forget someone you love when the relationship is over.
Imagine the good places you visited, the love and trust you have for your partner, and the relationship eventually ended up in a breakup. It hurts so much. It is like spending many years in school and in the end, you fail to secure a good job for yourself.
Memories cannot be erased, especially the ones you shared with a loved one. Those feelings will always come back each time you remember them. The trust, love, and loyalty you paid to them will always haunt you, any time you recall how you spent your life with them. But does that mean you can’t stop thinking about someone and learn to stop loving them?
Below are some tips that will help you to forget someone you love and recover from the pains they have caused you.
1. Be open to a new love
You can’t get rid of the emotions you have for someone by still dwelling in the past. You need to take a step.
Being open to loving another person is the only way to forget someone you love. When a new person comes into your life, give them the opportunity to love you, and equally show them love in return. Try dating someone else, meet new friends, and participate in online dating. This will help you to shift your mind away from your ex.
2. Give yourself time
You need some time to get rid of those memories from your brain. It doesn’t happen overnight. It may take up to a month, two months or more to finally forget your first love.
All you need to do is to focus on improving your life to become a better person. Everything that happens in the world works with time. To have a good relationship, you need to give it time. To recover from a breakup, you need some time to heal. Likewise forgetting someone you are in love with. You need time to let go of those emotions.
3. Cease all forms of communication with them
Another way to let go of someone you love is to cut off, all forms of communication with him/her. Either by deleting their contact, blocking them on social or by relocating to a place where you will find it very hard to see or visit them. If you feel the urge to text or call them, resist it. If you’ve been calling them in the past, stop it. All these will help you to stop thinking about them and move on with your life.
4. Get ride of those things that reminds you of them
Be it the gifts you received from them, their pictures, or anything at all. Bring them together and burn them to ashes. Put away those things that remind you of the good time you spent together.
Our thoughts are most of the time, controlled by what we see. If seeing their photographs reminds you of them, do away with it. You can only shift your mind away from them by removing everything that belongs to them from your sight.
5. Create a new memory for yourself
To forget the past, you need to create what will represent the past.
Forming new memories will help you to forget your past life with him/her. Visit exciting places and lovely people. Spend time with them and have fun. If you want to change the outside, you must first change the inside. Your thoughts are a catalyst for self-perpetuating cycles.
Change your thoughts today by forming new memories. Socialize with your friends. Avoid being alone. Rather, go out to meet new friends and make yourself happy.
The more you maintain a solitude life, the more you continue thinking about your ex.
In summary, to forget about someone you so much love, do the followings:
- Be open to a new love
- Give yourself time
- Cease all forms of communication with them
- Get rid of those things that remind you of them
- Create a new memory for yourself
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