Healing from a breakup does not happen overnight. It takes time and patience to wear off those negative feelings and hurt.
When I experienced my first breakup, it was like a hell in a cage to me. I was totally depressed. Although, we didn’t end the relationship in a good term. She decided to ghost me as a sign that our relationship is over. But it took me up to a week to completely stop thinking about her.
Today, I am going to share with you, some of the things that helped me recover quickly after my first heartbreak.
If you can practice some of the tips am about to share with you, you will definitely find it very easy to forget your ex and move on, even if you can’t stop loving him/her.
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2 Ways to recover from a breakup
1. Make new friends
The first thing that helped me recover when I broke up with my ex was meeting new people and mingling with my friends.
They made me understand that I don’t have to beg anyone to stay in my life. Anyone who doesn’t deserve your love shouldn’t make you depressed.
You may feel rejected, abandoned, or anguish. But the only way to solve this traumatic problem is to make new friends and socialize with them.
Share your feelings with them. Most times, the best break-up advice comes from friends and loved ones. It may not come from your therapist or browsing online.
So, it is very necessary to meet new friends. Tell them what you are passing through. Don’t hold your feelings to yourself. If you do, you will never recover from the pains you’ve been inflicted.
Right now, you need someone that will understand how you feel. I’ve experienced it before. So, I know how hurtful it is to breakup with your boyfriend or girlfriend.
To cope with this loneliness, start socializing with friends. Distract yourself by having funs with them.
Make new friends online and be actively involved in dating or relationship groups where you will find some helpful advice.
2. Take care of yourself:
Experiencing heartbreak is like being physically sick. Until you take some drugs or medication you won’t recover except you got miraculous healing.
You can recover from a breakup by taking care of yourself. Visit a therapist if necessary, and read some breakup stories or books that will strengthen you again.
To release yourself from this emotional pain, start loving yourself.
Try to forget or delete the past memories of your ex. Even if your relationship was as romantic as a Puffer fish, try and stop pondering on the good dates you had in the past.
Focus on making yourself happy, now. Read books and movies that excite you. In addition to that, attend seminars about relationships and equally mingle with people who love and cherish you. All these will help you to recover after a breakup.
According to research, “Your brain registers the emotional pain of heartbreak in the same way as physical pain, which is why you might feel like your heartbreak is causing actual physical hurt.”
So, to heal from this emotional hurt, you must distract yourself with some activities that will help you to forget your ex because the moment you keep remembering him/her, the more depressed you become. Just keep yourself busy instead of staying in a lonely place thinking about a failed relationship.