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5 Reasons why you are still single by now

There are many reasons why people can’t find a love partner.

This article explores the reasons why most people are single and what they can do to find companionship.

Read on; you might be surprised by what you will find is hindering you from true love. 

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The number of single people is on the rise. A simple search on hookup sites will tell you that many single people are looking for a love partner.  But, have you wondered why finding a partner is hard? 

Yes, some people choose to stay single. Some are divorced, others have unfortunately lost their spouses- and decide not to remarry, while the rest cannot seem to catch a break when it comes to love.

One thing for sure is that it is hard to find and keep a love partner. We have an idea why. First, let’s look at one of the biggest misconceptions about finding your love partner.

  1. The Power of Your Words

When you first claim that you’re looking for a love partner, you must acknowledge that nothing is missing in you.

The only thing you should look forward to satisfying is the deep, human craving to feel a connection with another human being.

That’s all (and we’re not trying to downplay the importance of finding a love partner).

No! What we are emphasizing is that being whole means reaching your full potential.

This is the best way to find true love. Look at it from this point of view. Most people refer to their love partners as their “other half.” 

This is indeed an ordinary casual term that insinuates you are in a relationship with someone.

What you might not realize is that the words you put out into the universe carry a lot of power. By confessing that you’re a “half,” you already agree to short change yourself.

When you say you’re a “half,” you insinuate that you cannot function as a human until you unite with the other side of you.

This isn’t true at all. You’re not a half split human being looked to get fixed once you’re joined to another.

Look, all we’re trying to say is that your “halfness doesn’t hold down your aspirations and your dreams.

You are a living, breathing human being. If you think your love partner is your other half, you glue your aspirations and dreams to them. 

Suppose you lose your “other half,” what happens then?

You should be in a healthy position to keep your sense of purpose alive.

You can only do this if you already consider yourself a whole.  Once you think yourself whole, your need for fulfillment and completeness by another person goes away. 

From this point on, avoid calling someone you’re in a relationship with your “other half.” You shall instead call them your love partner. 

Now let’s find out why it’s so hard to find a love partner. 

  1. You’re in a Hurry to Say, “NO.”

If you’re like most people trying to find a love partner, you have a long list of how they should look, think, talk, or even breathe.

You’ve already put your potential partner into a box, and you’re waiting for them to show up so you can start ticking the list. 

The first thing you need to do if you’re in this situation is to let go of all preconceived notions of how your love partner should look and act.

Take a break from printing out those love partner quotes for your fridge door.  

And before you say no to anyone, you should get to know them first. The truth is that you never know; you may change your mind after spending time with the individual.

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  1. You Don’t Know How to Forgive

If you understand the concept of forgiveness, you are aware that no one is perfect, and neither are you.

Your partner in love is bound to make mistakes.

For instance, you might be in a pickle wondering what to do because your wife is in love with an affair partner. Or you might be falling in love with your affair partner.

If this happens, do not give up on your relationship.

Please understand that we aren’t encouraging adultery- far from it- all we’re saying is, you can learn how to love your partner again. 

Try to accept your love partner with all their mistakes as you work things out.

Of course, some mistakes aren’t easily forgivable. But, if you hold onto them for too long, they become your cancer – you will ruin your chances of salvaging your companionship if they’re your love partner.

  1. You Allow Too Many Opinions in Your Personal Life.

Sometimes, you may be surrounded by a group of friends who are always ready to give you advice about your love partner.

Most of this advice is usually based on their personal, biased view of the situation.

Additionally, these opinions could sometimes be fuel for some group gossip.

If you allow too many people into your issues, they’re likely to control you and drive away your love partner. 

Whether you are trying to figure out “why my partner never wants to make love” or “how to love your partner again after a betrayal,” it’s best to see a professional for help.

Besides, your love partner could be going through issues that require medical attention.

  1. You’re Looking Too Hard For Your Love Partner
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When you’re looking too hard, you’re bound to make mistakes in finding a love partner – like finding your karmic love partner instead. So try to loosen up a bit and enjoy life as it comes.

Searching too hard for your love partner could turn into a wrong life decision whose consequences you’ll have to endure. 

Don’t settle for the wrong person just because they’re available.

If you’d like to settle for something more beautiful and meaningful, give yourself time to enjoy making friends with the people around you before you think of finding a love partner.

  1. You’re Not Taking the Time to Make Friends

Are you an expatriate looking for a love partner in a foreign country?

It’s normal to feel scared, have some doubts about whether you made the right decision, and wish for home.

These emotions tend to intensify if you find someone you think might be a good match as a love partner.

What you might not realize is that you’re looking for a distraction from all the emotions building up from your move.

It’s best to surround yourself with companions, so you don’t settle for whoever comes along. If you settle, you’ll start your search for a love partner on the wrong foot.

Build your circle of friends. Find people you can connect with and have the same interests as you.

It will help you acclimatize to the environment much faster and make the right decision when finding a love partner. 

You don’t have to commit to any of your friends as a love partner unless there’s one you truly cherish, and you both feel like you should take your relationship to the next level. 

Conclusion

Finding a love partner is not hard.

All you need to do is open yourself up to the possibilities ahead and be patient even when it doesn’t look like you’re in luck.

Even if your depressed partner falls out of love, there’s a lot you can do to bring them back into the warmth of your love. 

Remember, this is when they need you the most, so don’t give up on them. For many people, it is vital to find a partner for love.

Given that there are various ideals, what is the best advice you would give someone who is looking for a love partner? 

Robert Faulkner
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