13 Reasons Why You Can’t Get A Girlfriend (Unless You Resolve These)

One of the questions I have been receiving for the past week is “why can’t I get a girlfriend? I’m handsome, but it seems having a girlfriend is an impossible task for me.

In this post, I’m going to share with you, the top 13 reasons why you find it difficult to get a girlfriend. No girl wants to have you as their boyfriend, right? I don’t think so.

Girls are not running away from you. There may be something you are not doing right that makes you struggle with women. Girls are not too hard to attract. But there are some mistakes most guys make that hinders them from attracting the girl they like.

Getting a girlfriend is not an impossible mission. Even if she appears to be too hard to get, they are other ways or things you can do to make her like you. But if you have been left in the friend zone, it is necessary you know how to get out of the friend zone first, before trying to make her your gf.

For guys who never had a girlfriend, below are some reasons why you don’t have a girlfriend.

13 Reasons You Can’t Get A Girlfriend

1. You are not charming enough

Not being attractive enough is one of the major reasons why most guys can’t have a girlfriend. Being charming is not all about the way you dress. Although, it is part of it. But the most important is how you talk to a girl you are meeting for the first time.

If you are not bold enough to talk to her or tell her how you feel about her, it is a sign you are not charming enough, and this will destroy your chances of attracting a girl to be your gf.

2. You are not good at flirting

If you are not good at flirting with girls, then you will always find it hard to attract a girl you want. Just saying “Hi” to a girl, or introducing yourself will not make her fall in love with you. You need to master the art of flirting.

And let me remind you, girls are more attracted to what they hear than what they see. So, if you think you can win her heart only by giving her some gifts, you are completely wrong.

You need to fill her ears with sweet words. Awake that princess in her by telling her what she wants to hear.

3. You seem to be too desperate

Women can be mysterious. They may pretend to love you today and do another thing tomorrow.

When a girl discovers that you are too desperate to have her, she will quickly pull away from you. She’s doing this to make you start chasing her.

If you allow a girl to know that you can’t do without her, she will play hard to get. And when this happens, it becomes even more difficult for you to get her attention.

Read also: How to get a girl’s phone number without asking for it.

4. You always complain

Too many complain is another reason why most guys cannot have a girlfriend.

You always complain about every little thing she does. You get unnecessarily jealous when you see her with another guy. All these can trigger a quarrel between you and the girl you love, which can hinder you from becoming her boyfriend.

Read also: Signs a girl likes you but is hiding her feelings

5. You are not socially active

You can’t expect to find a girlfriend whereas you don’t go out to meet other people. It’s not possible.

If you are the type that always finds it uncomfortable to mingle with other people in a wide social setting, then it can stand as a barrier to your success in having a girlfriend.

Therefore, you should consider going out with friends. This will increase your opportunity to meet different types of girls, and probably, you will meet a girl that will like you and become your gf.

Read also: Signs she doesn’t want to have a relationship with you.

6. You don’t know how to approach a girl

Most guys think that the best way to approach a girl and make a good impression is just to tell her that you are crushing on her, or that you work in a big company where you earn a reasonable amount of money.

Your success in attracting her depends on how confident you are. Women love guys who are confident and good-looking.

You shouldn’t just walk up to a girl and start telling her stories. Maybe because you’ve told your friends that you are smart, and they should watch how you will get them to like you.

Before you think about approaching a girl you want a relationship with, consider preparing yourself, first.

Think about what you want from her and a clear way to make your feelings known to her. This will increase your chances of making her fall in love with you and become your girlfriend.

Read also: Good questions to ask your girlfriend to get to know her.

7. You can’t exercise patience

If you have ever wooed a lady before, you will know that you need patience.

You don’t rush a girl you met last week and expect her to be your girlfriend. Give her some time to examine her feelings.

Girls are emotional beings. That is what most men don’t understand about women. If you easily give up on girls especially when they want you to chase them, you will never have a girlfriend in your life.

8. You are too nice 

Who says it is not good to be nice to people? But loving too much has its own consequences especially when you are trying to make someone fall in love with you. 

Do you seem to be too nice to girls? This can be the reason why none of them wants to be your girlfriend.

A girl will start taking you for granted, the moment she discovers that all you care about is how to please her. And that is why most guys end up being dumped in the friend zone.

So, I advise you to be a good person to everyone around you but don’t try to please a woman at all times. Sometimes, you need to give her some space to make her realize that you can live without her.

9. You are a playboy

A girl will quickly avoid you immediately she discovers that you are a player in disguise.

You can’t expect a girl to fall in love with you, whereas all you want is to have sex with her and go.

So, before you even think about getting a girlfriend, you should first, ask yourself “why do I need a girlfriend.” This will help you to have a clear understanding of what you want.

10. They’re not that into you

Trying to force yourself on a girl who is not into you is totally a waste of time. Although you may be her closest friend if she is not madly in love with you, she will never accept to be your girlfriend.

11. You shy away from girls

Timidity is another reason why a guy will always struggle to get a girlfriend.

Shy guys hardly approach women. And when they do, their lack of confidence stops them from saying what they wanted to say. But only girls who are sensitive will know that they are just being shy.

Are you a shy guy? Do you find it difficult to speak your mind even when you have the opportunity to? If ‘yes’ then, that is what is holding you from having a girlfriend.

Read also: How to tell someone you like them without being rejected. 

12. You still have childish behaviors in you

Most guys are not mature enough to have a girlfriend. How do I know? Through their attitude towards women.

The way you speak, dress, walk, and personality are the four major things that attract people.

If you are a guy that always makes fun of every girl you meet, you will continue to struggle to attract girls.

How do you speak or treat other people? Are you rude, arrogant, or selfish? If any of these is in your life, then it will be hard for you to find a girl who will accept to be your girlfriend.

So, consider dealing with those bad habits that are chasing people away from you.

13. You don’t make any effort to improve your life

People are most of the time, attracted to what they see in you. How do you expect a girl to fall in love with you, whereas you don’t make any single effort to become a better person?

You are poor in hygiene. You don’t bother to look smart or smell good. Girls are not attracted to such guys.

Therefore, work on yourself to become a better person. Pursue your goals and develop your talents to become a better version of yourself.