Absence makes the heart grow fonder. When you love someone and become emotionally, physically, and even spiritually attached to them, it becomes very difficult to forget about them when they are gone. But does that mean you can’t move your mind away from the person you are missing and stop thinking about them? Read on to discover how to stop missing someone and move on with your life.
Love is a very strong emotion.
Research shows that when you’re bonded to someone, your brain releases chemicals such as dopamine, oxytocin, and serotonin. That is why it becomes so hard to get rid of happy memories we shared with our loved ones when they are no more. Maybe as a result of death, a breakup, or the distance between us and them.
Whether he or she is an ex-lover, a deceased one, or someone you truly love, you will always miss them whenever you remember that special thing about them.
But today, I’m going to share with you, some of the things that will help you shift your mind away from someone you miss and completely stop longing for them.
Can you ever stop missing someone?
It’s difficult to completely stop missing someone. The happy memories you shared with them will always flash back. That is why it becomes harder to totally move your mind away from someone without remembering them even for once.
What are some signs you’re missing someone badly?
- You can’t stop thinking about them
- You keep staring at their pictures or belongings
- You can’t stop staring at your phone, expecting them to call or text you.
- You find it difficult to sleep
- You keep imagining how your day would look like if they are right there with you.
- You never stop telling people about them
- You always dream of them
Whether you are missing your ex-boyfriend, ex-girlfriend, husband, wife, parents, or anybody at all, do the following to stop missing them.
How to Stop Missing Someone
Below are some tips to help you move your mind away from the person you are missing.
1. Discover why you are missing them
A person with a fascinating character cannot be easily forgotten when they are no more.
For instance, most couples find it difficult to forget or stop missing their partner who is now deceased, or after a divorce, or a breakup because they keep remembering the happy memories they shared with them.
Their partner may be such a romantic, caring, and funny fellow. This makes it hard for them to completely delete those memories from their mind.
So, the first thing you should do to stop missing someone is to write down those qualities you missed about them. After that, consider asking yourself the following questions:
- Is this person I am missing worth thinking of?
- Are they also missing me?
- Do I have the power to bring them back into my life?
- What if they decide to move on, do I have to force myself on them?
- Since they left, are there negative impacts their absence has caused me?
- What will happen if I completely delete them from my mind?
Finding the answers to the above questions will help you figure out if you are wasting your time missing someone you cannot have again, or bring back to life (if they are now deceased).
2. Stop dwelling on your past feelings and focus on the present.
Dwelling on your past can cause you to ruminate on the type of life you lived or had with the person you miss.
So, it is necessary, you deal with those past emotions in order to shift your mind away from that person.
Maybe you had a good and a romantic relationship with them. Now they are gone, what is your faith?
Should you continue stressing yourself over someone who may not even be missing you? If ‘no’ then consider taking the next step below.
3. Remove whatever that reminds you about them
It may be their belongings, their photo, or anything at all that reminds you about them.
If he or she is your late husband or late wife, it will be almost impossible for you to remove those pictures you snapped together. But I recommend you keep them in a place where you will see them once in a while. It will help lessen how much you miss them.
But if the person you’re missing is your ex-lover, consider removing their belongings or deleting their pictures from your phone to stop seeing them.
What if you are missing someone because of the distance between the both of you?
4. Try having a video chat with them
Absence makes the heart grow fonder. If you are missing a loved one because you have not seen them for a very long time now, I suggest you connect with them on social media.
The internet is so vast today that everyone has access to it. Connect that special person in your life on social media and have a live chat with them.
The more you see each other, the less you will long after them.
Another thing you should do is to communicate with them over the phone but not always.
Calling them every day will make you crave them more and start to miss them badly.
5. Avoid living a lonely life
Loneliness contributes to why we miss our loved ones. Instead of staying alone in your room, try visiting a friend or socializing with friends.
Do not be idle. Keep yourself busy with some activities like:
- Watching movies
- Listening to music (but avoid listening to sad ones)
- Reading books
- Attending seminars
- Chatting online
- Making new friends and hanging out with them.
If you are missing your ex-lover, consider starting a new relationship with someone who will love you and help you forget your past feelings.
To stop missing someone does not happen overnight. It takes some time and requires some level of patience to shift your mind away from that person you are missing.
So, if you find yourself still struggling to forget about someone, it is natural. Give yourself some time and you will hardly remember the person again.
Have you ever missed someone badly before? Share your experience with us.